I would have expected that after more than two and a half years I might be used to this by now… the pain, the exhaustion, the enormously excessive fatigue, the lack of mobility, lack of focus, lack of concentration, lack of my usual ability to fixate obsessively… but I am not.
I find that I feel quite lost without those things – particularly the lack of focus and obsessiveness, inability to mange to do the thing I love. It seems unreal that after all this time I still suffer like this with it. Other people with Fibro don’t seem to go through quite the same thing… I am quite despondent from it – I wonder what I am doing wrong if other people can manage their Fibro condition, but I cannot.
Is it as simple because I have complications in my symptoms from the AS? I have sensory hypersensitivity as it is, so that must exacerbate it. Is there something else? Do they get a better NHS service? Are they overseen by a pain clinic that helps them? Is it because they can take medication that I can’t? Is it because I suffer is quite strong and unfortunate side-effects from the Pregabalin? I do not know. I have no specialist; I never have. Not in London, not in Wales. There is no one to ask. No one to help – the NHS, the GP services… everything is all in turmoil, and as always, I am left to my own devices. Nothing has changed there in 25 years.
The thoughts, these troubles, run rampant inside me constantly. The questions spin ceaselessly through my head and burn my mind… what’s left of it. Right now I am so exhausted I am in another world, zombified, zoned out as if I’ve been given some massive tranquilliser doses. I can barely focus on what I write, and must re-read what I am saying and attempt to write quickly what is on my mind before it genuinely forgets it all. I am at a loss to know how to help myself – I push myself, I rest, I attempt things that require concentration… and if I remember what I’m doing and realise that I can’t, that’s when the tears of frustration start burning in my chest and anxiety rises all the more. The worst part is nothing seems to work, and I am a slave to the weather. Meaning so far within the last eight months I have managed to do very little of what I hoped that I would. Particularly this summer.
Some days have been nice, some days awful, and some days so bad you can’t even see out the window for all the fog and rain… Yes, just like my life.
Once again, the rain comes tearing down, hammering off the roof and windows. Wimbledon is playing its one single game under the now-domed Centre Court. And people are lucky if they don’t require a boat to get around. The pain, the aches, the stiffness, the immense pain and unimaginable fatigue, all makes even a simple existence difficult. I would be quite happy watching the tennis with one eye and reading one of my copious amounts of (Kindle) books with the other – there’s quite a virual mountain of them still going unread, because I cannot read now. Not that I don’t know words (obviously), but because I do not remember what I have read, nor retain any information about it, not five minutes later.
I am used to retaining most things. I am used to my brain working in multi-core processing at hyper-speed. I am used to being able to do things. I am still not used to not being able to do almost anything. I have all the time in the world on my hands… and my mind, my brain, my lifeblood, seems to have been taken away from me. Thus I cannot seem to utilise that time in the manner I would prefer. I would be able to get so much done – read books and magazines, install and become accustomed to using Linux, coding, and networking, get better at chess and Hearthstone, listen to audiobooks.
On the other side, I have ended up mindlessly watching TV catching up on virtual online streaming “box sets”…
Perhaps the most obvious thing to suggest here is to just “rest and sleep”. “Resting” makes me mentally hyperactive and frustrated to the point of meltdown (on occasion). Sleep… well I can’t sleep. Never have been able to. Now it’s just worse. Throw in the nightmares and it becomes even less inviting… though these have become less frequent of late, thanks to finding the “Sensory Diet” and implementing it, resulting in less meltodowns too (going down from several a day, to no big ones for several weeks).
However, the lack of ability to allow my excessively hyperactive brain to “run”, to get rid of its energy, to approptiately use this free time to learn, to read, to practice I what I’ve learned… it all gets too much sometimes. Like today. Like most other days. My brain wants to take a massive run at a whole bunch of things… but the focus and energy required to do it is lacking. Missing. Gone. Sometimes there’s a flare of it, but it is short-lived. I am quickly exhausted within a short time, so I feel there is little point even starting when I cannot finish.
Sedentary life is not for me – not the mental sedentary life anyway. I’m not generally worried so much on the physical (a little yoga and dance has made me quite happy there). But without the ability to mentally “go nuts”, I am frustrated, irritated, easily annoyed, fidgety, broody, shut down. The pain of movement, of thought, of even sitting and sitting and typing, of trying to organise anything, is awful to the point of excrutiating. To the point where I feel it’s just not worth the pain. The pain sears by brain, short-circuits it, burns it. I wish I knew how to stop it.
I wish I knew how to be calm. Remember how to be… me.
I miss being me.